Divorce Mediation & Consultation By An Experienced & Caring Family Law Attorney
“You made it all happen for us, and I know we both appreciate it so much! It wasn't easy, but you did a "hellofa" great job....”
An email I received from a client right after their last mediation session, in which they settled their case
Hi Alison, I just wanted to tell you that I really wanted to give you a hug today! You've done a very warm and kind mediation with Rob and I. Maybe you don't hear that enough but you're doing a great service. Even though we seem amicable, it helps to have someone sensitive like you to keep us on track. Just wanted you to know I appreciate you and what you're doing. Thank you!
You were such an asset for my ex-wife and I, and I can't thank you enough for all you did! You and Bruce B. were the ones that helped me the most and I am forever grateful.
An email I received from a client at the end of the case, sharing her feelings about the divorce process and the mediation. (This client is a poet.)
Suddenly you find yourself alone on Tom Sawyer's raft, paddling across a sea, waving farewell to the only homeland you've known forever; staring at a stranger who used to take your breath away just knowing you walked together in this world. Aloneness hits you in the gut and you're flaying in the deep, trying not to drown, surrounded by the "minutes on the clock" smiles.
As you feel all is lost, Alison reaches out with a lifeline and gently steers you to the opposite shore. As your eyes search, looking for a peaceful place to rest your soul, her words of wisdom and encouragement erase the sadness and the anger all these months of meetings and negotiations have created. You realize you can breathe -- you will survive.
An email from a client in response to the evaluation asking for feedback at the end of the case.
No complaints at all. You were very professional, thoughtful, sincere and your fees were fair. I would recommend you at any time. Thank you again for everything.
An email from a mediation client after the case ended:
Alison, I am really grateful for your guidance in this process. I was especially appreciative when, during one of our mediations, you shared something of your own relationship dynamic and both your feelings and your husband's around it. It really helped to validate my Ex and myself as having our own reasons for operating the way we do and it also diffused any tension.
I also appreciate your generosity of spirit with both time and energy. It always felt like you actually cared and that this was not just a job. I felt your fees were fair and really appreciate you going the extra mile with us and offering to not charge my Ex at that point when we needed some help moving forward and the additional fees for a call was a sticking point with him and getting in the way of us reaching a settlement.
Thanks very much Alison, I would definitely refer to you!! Many blessings to you and your family.
Initials withheld at client’s request
Thank you for your help, guidance, and kindness. Of the attorneys involved, in my opinion, you were the best and most helpful.
From a male mediation client; initials withheld at client’s request
Thank you for all your guidance and assistance during my mediation. I felt heard and understood!
Comments from the client evaluation at the end of the case
I am most thankful for Alison's genuine concern and thoughtfulness. Alison's broad experience and organized approach kept the train moving forward at all times, despite all odds. Alison was the credible steady voice that calmed my soul during the confusion and angst of divorce. Her pleasant, smart and firm demeanor with other counsel helped to create a rapport which improved the dialogue during mediation, as well as offline communication between counsel. I was lucky to have met Alison to help me though a very difficult process.
Throughout our mediation, you have been remarkable, decent, clear, and fair. You are the ONLY person I've ever known who has successfully calmed down my spouse’s white hot anger. You are to be commended for taking up mediation as a follow-on career to litigation. I would heartily recommend you to anyone and everyone.
Initials withheld at client’s request
Alison, you have my most heartfelt appreciation for the way you got us through to the end of our divorce mediation. There were so many times I wanted to just give up and I'm sure, being human, you may have felt the same way a few times yourself.
During our marriage, every discussion or argument or conversation about our marriage or the state of our marriage disintegrated into my ex arguing semantics and turning everything inside out and upside down to the point where we could never finish a rational discussion. So, I don't know how the hell you did it, but you did and I'm grateful.
In a few weeks, everything will be done and then I will really be able to settle into my new life.
You have helped guide us through this process that can be so ugly, with grace, kindness and humor. It has been a very difficult year but I have accepted the loss of the marriage and my goal now is to make this as easy and as painless as possible for our children. And honestly I don't think things would have turned out this positively if we had worked with anyone else but you. Thank you for all that you have done for us. We are so glad we found you! You are so compassionate and good at what you do.
Comments from the client evaluation at the end of the case
1. The in- office mediations were excellent. They were what I expected a mediation to be--a discussion with you as the go-between (not like our previous experience with the law firm we used before we found you). You are very skilled in the mediation process and I appreciated your ability to help my ex understand my point of view on things.
2. You are very prompt to answer emails /phone calls and always went the extra mile to make sure we were kept apprised of how our case was progressing. Thus I did not feel left out of the loop or abandoned at any time (again, not like with the other firm).
3. I did not meet your paralegal but she always responded to emails very quickly and addressed any concerns promptly.
4. I think your fees were very reasonable for the work you do -- I truly appreciate that you do not nickel and dime your clients as I have heard many lawyers do!
5. The only area of improvement I can think of is the miscommunication we had at one stage about the MSA, but it was so minuscule that I can't even remember what it was!
6. Your obvious empathy for people and communication skills made the entire process as pleasant as possible. You have a gift for working with people in a caring and kind manner while still being extremely effective. This is a rare ability and I am so grateful to you! I also really appreciate that you always took or returned my calls, even when they were after hour. And you called when the court papers came through, even though it was a Saturday, to make sure I was okay.
I think that I am most impressed with the fact that you truly do care about your clients, are very approachable, non-judgmental and very un-lawyer like! (no offence to lawyers!)
Alison is the consummate mediator. She is fair and shows enormous tact in the face of the difficult emotional circumstances of divorce. Ultimately, she wrote an agreement that we both could live with (including attorneys on both sides) with a minimum of back-and-forth. I firmly believe that working with Alison saved both me and my soon-to-be ex several thousand dollars in attorney's fees and several months in court.
OMG! I am numb. . . I can’t believe you made this work out for both of us like you did. THANK YOU soooooo much for getting this to a finale. I really had lost all hope. You are a miracle worker.
My Personal Favorite - emailed to me by a man in his forties who has never been married but saw my website
“You almost make me want to get married just so I can go through a divorce gracefully with your guidance.”
Testimonials from Clients
I had many contacts with Alison Patton in our respective roles as Family Court Mediator and Family Law Attorney. I always found her to be punctual, informed, ethical, and conciliatory.
She was a good negotiator, and always maintained her respect for others (both clients and opposing attorneys) and her sense of humor. Her competence and warmth were remarkable in an arena where such abilities can easily be lost. She was liked and respected by all the mediators, and by the judges.
Karen Romero Burns, LCSW, J.D.
As a court clerk at the Superior Court, I have known Alison Patton for about 18 years, tracing back to when she first came to observe and learn as a young, new attorney. She always was a joy to work with. I frequently saw Alison make her appearances as an attorney in Family Court. She exhibited the wisdom of a veteran attorney. She was very gentle and respectful, but at the same time, had great command over the situation and handled it with expertise. Her clients seemed very pleased with her and Alison did not go to trial much. Her cases settled very quickly to everyone’s satisfaction. The Bench had confidence in her work and even the opposing party seemed to be pleased with the agreements they reached.
Clerk of the Superior Court of San Francisco
Alison Patton was the only associate I have ever had; I simply could never find anyone like her when she moved to Southern California. Her commitment and approach to family law mirrored mine perfectly, which gave me confidence to send cases her way. Her work is excellent, as is her work ethic. She has a rare ability to develop good relationships with clients and colleagues in an effort to work collaboratively toward amicable, reasonable, non-litigated resolution of conflict. Alison is also committed to serving her community and is recognized for her efforts to assist the court and to help pro bono clients who would otherwise have no access to legal representation.
Certified Family Law Specialist
Past President, Northern California chapter of American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
When I first met Alison Patton, I had already had a number of unsatisfactory experiences with lawyers who didn’t listen, nor did they regard me or my personal information with much seriousness. Considering divorce is such a stressful time to begin with, the last thing I needed was a attorney I couldn’t depend on. Alison was like water in a barren desert–a relief on many dimensions. I remember my first meeting with her. Not only did Alison have a wonderfully warm disposition, I felt the burden of being alone lifted from me. I felt totally safe and she was the voice I wasn’t able to express. Alison has a strong, impeccable work ethic and was an amazing advocate for me. To top it off, Alison’s character is sincere and of the highest caliber. When things were difficult for me, Alison was there, making the effort, asking the questions, doing the fight, yet always maintaining kindness and compassion toward me. To this day, Alison Patton has a special place in my heart.
Alison did a wonderful job with our mediated divorce. She was empathic to both of us and knowledgeable in the law. She navigated through this painful period as smoothly as possible.
Marriage is hard but divorce is harder and it brings out the worst in many people. The odds of both members of a couple being “easy” during a divorce are slim. Somehow Alison Patton seems to find the best in each person, and capitalize on that for the sake of an outcome in which both parties feel treated fairly. She goes beyond just relaying pertinent information between the parties, she also soothes ruffled feathers and re-words things in a way that invites cooperation. She is genuinely empathetic toward each person going through the ordeal of divorce.
When I got divorced, I consulted a few attorneys before meeting Alison. Alison was by far the most knowledgeable, compassionate, realistic and attentive. I wouldn't hesitate to recommend her for your family law needs. She'll be 100% in your corner.
Alison is a very good lawyer and someone I highly recommend. Words like integrity, candor and empathy are rarely terms you hear related to divorce lawyers, but Alison has these qualities.
Unlike some lawyers I first dealt with in my lengthy and seemingly never-ending divorce process due to a litigious ex-wife, Alison was not motivated by dragging things out or taking unnecessary costly steps to increase her billable hours. She was reasonably priced in terms of hourly rates and retainers, probably because unlike larger law firms, she doesn’t have a huge staff, lavish offices and a giant infrastructure that requires her to pad her fees like so many other high profile lawyers I have worked with. Her sole goal and intent was to get a good settlement outcome in the quickest way possible. Due to this mindset, she was able to get my case settled at a much lower cost and ended up saving me a ton of money.
I found her to be both intelligent and caring and she put the best interests of her clients before her own. That unfortunately cannot be said for all attorneys out there. In addition to my own experience at certain points in my divorce before I used Alison’s services, I have friends and colleagues who have hired attorneys at big firms, only to end up spending more money on the lawyers than they actually recover in the case. They win the battle but lose the war due to the exorbitant legal fees. I highly recommend Alison’s services to anyone in need of an experienced, knowledgeable and reliable attorney, who doesn’t want to spend a fortune on legal fees, yet wants the same level of expertise and a favorable and expedient outcome.
Alison helped me so much through my divorce. She not only made me feel comfortable in her competence of the law but she was extremely understanding on a personal level. I would highly recommend her.
I really feel fortunate to have worked with you in the divorce process. After talking to several divorce attorneys, I found that nearly all of them stimulated my desire to fight and be aggressive. Most used words like “I can be a pit bull” or suggested that I could not trust my current spouse or I would not be in a situation to require their services. Thankfully, as I pushed back on these concepts, one lawyer yielded, indicating I was probably not the right client for their practice and referred me to you. They were right about that! We quickly bonded around what in our hearts we know to be most important, the preservation of a positive environment for our daughter. Your council helped me and my soon to be ex-wife keep that as our focus throughout the process, and as a result I feel we have a very functional relationship and a child who has survived her parents’ mistakes without any lasting damage (not to mention the preservation of her college fund). We still have a long road ahead of us, but you set us on the right path and it is comforting to know that you are still there, should we need your council. We appreciate your patience, caring advice and thoughtful support and we hope that many others find you and take advantage of your services.
I participated in Alison Patton’s half-day divorce workshop several years ago, when she first started them. It was an intimate gathering of people, each person looking for answers and guidance at one of the most painful times in their life. Alison has a way of speaking that is informative, straightforward and calming at the same time. And she really listens. Sharing was difficult for me, but Alison was able to bring a sense of safety and openness to the gathering. Hearing other people’s experiences was very helpful, as well as the realization that we are all very similar when it comes to suffering.
I consulted with Alison Patton several times during my divorce. I am from Germany and was unfamiliar with the American legal system. Alison helped me in several ways: She explained the law and legal terms I needed to know; she explained different ways I could handle my divorce. I decided to try mediation because I did not want to fight and destroy our children’s sense of family, and Alison helped me make decisions throughout my mediation. I consulted with a few other lawyers and they also could describe the law, but they didn’t have compassion for my personal situation. Divorce is a huge deal in your life, not just a legal thing, and Alison was the only attorney who talked with me in a personal way, with kindness and genuine concern. The practical advice and legal information she gave me was excellent and I was able to resolve my case through mediation.
Alison combines a fierce intellect with a sensitive heart to help people gain clarity during one of the most difficult times in their life. I had a therapist and a lawyer on retainer throughout my divorce, but much of the best advice I received came from my consultations with Alison. She was able to address both my legal and emotional concerns and she helped me make decisions so I was ultimately able to get the outcome I wanted. I still have a friendly relationship with my ex-wife and I attribute this to the way our divorce played out.
Divorce is a difficult time, Alison treated me with dignity and kept the process to a minimum of drama and fees! I felt I was in good hands and recommend her.
I was profoundly impressed by Ms. Patton’s finely-tuned negotiation skills, and by the way that she used those skills to maximize her ability to negotiate on my behalf. She did a remarkable job of situating herself between two opposing parties, so that both parties felt that they came out ahead. Ms. Patton’s sensitivity towards each side was always of paramount importance as she navigated her way through our proceedings. One of the things that set her apart from other divorce attorneys was that her primary objective was to create an atmosphere of healing which would lead us on the path towards constructing a new relationship as co-parents of our son. All in all, she did an excellent job of creating an emotional, spiritual, and material bridge that I needed in order to elevate myself and move forward with my life.
Thank you, Alison, for all of your clear and concise help with the entire process. For anyone I know going through divorce, I wouldn’t send them to anyone else. What you do for a living is difficult and you handle it with such care and I know anyone would be in good hands with you. Thank you for bringing such integrity and compassion with helping others in such a delicate situation. I'm so grateful for your easy going approach, positivity in a challenging situation and your loving touch. Even your final email to us when the case was finished continued to show how much you care. Thank you so much.
Alison Patton instantly elicits respect from anyone lucky enough to work with her– clients, colleagues and the court. She is an impressively clear thinker and has always brought insight, intelligence, creativity and empathy into her field. Alison is dedicated to reaching resolutions that work for the whole family.
Attorney and Mediator
Certified Family Law Specialist
Certified by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization
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